How to Stop Feeling Like a Failure and Get Your Life Back on Track

There was a time, I remember, when things were such a mess, that I thought I would never recover. I felt helpless, walking through life with no clear view of where I am going, although opportunities were lurking around every corner and others seemed to always be ahead of me. 

Since you are here, chances are you are most probably feeling the same way as I used to feel quite a while back – you feel behind but want to look as like you are equal to others, and that there must be something more you could be doing with your life.

You are in a lucky position. 

Why? Because you can only improve something if you realize that it’s not quite right, that it’s not at the level it should be. That means you are already far ahead of most who don’t know why
they feel the way they feel and don’t know what to do about it.

Let me be blunt – there will always be challenges. In fact, life is a series of challenges you have to learn how to deal with on a regular basis. But in order to deal with them in appropriate and healthy ways, you have to accept them as something which is a part of life and not constantly trying to avoid it.  

The thing is to recognize and accept these problems and then deal with them before they become crises. As they say, the best time to kill a “monster” is while it’s still little. 

And how do you kill a “monster”? Well, you constantly improve your ability to enjoy life so you can experience it at a level of richness most people never dream of. 

In order to do that, you need to learn how to make better decisions as they are what determines the course of your life. 

Learn how to make better decisions

The direction in which you are going is a result of the decisions you’ve made up until that point.

So, if you want to stop being a failure – stop making decisions failures make.

Every habit in your life compounds, and as the years pass by and the time moves forward, it gets harder to break out of it.

No joke.

So how you can start making better decisions and develop healthier habits that will drag you forward today? 

Let me give you an example.

  • When you have the choice between eating a chocolate muffin or a banana, choose the banana.
  • When you have the choice between watching TV or reading a book, choose the book.
  • When you have the choice between going to bed or going for a run, choose the run.

The principle is simple: Your decisions shape your destiny. They either take you to the life you desire or to disaster by default.

Yes, there are things that are not in your power to control. But you have full control over your decisions and that’s where you have to put your mental efforts and willpower. 

Ultimately, I am not advising you to look to make right decisions as I got a whole list like stop watching porn, move out of town, ditch your current friends and find new ones. But if you are not capable of making better decisions to create good habits in your life, all of these become irrelevant.

The true power of making decisions is more like a tool you can use in any moment to steer your life in the right direction. As Tony Robbins puts is: 

Remember that when you start feeling overwhelmed, or when you feel like you don’t have a choice, or when things are happening “to” you, you can change it all if you just stop and decide to do so. 

After you adopt this approach and start using it, then, over time your identity will begin to change and you will slowly start getting your life back on track. 

And because the coin has two sides, I want to remind you of one last thing: A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t really decided. 

Now, please excuse me, as I am going for a run. See you on the circuit!

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Venny used to be a totally clueless asshole, but now shares ideas to help people improve or ruin their lives. He considers himself as just a regular guy with various types of mental disorders nature blessed him with. And he loves them all.

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